We still haven’t found what the secret to a happy relationship is.
But at least we now have an indicator of what one looks like.
A study in the Personality and Social Psychology journal has found that couples who don’t post photos of themselves on social media generally tend to be the happiest.
So you can now take solace in the fact that those insufferable Instagram couples who unironically use hashtags like #BAE and #4EVA are actually miserable inside.
Well, that’s not exactly the take out from all of this, but the study does find a connection between how genuinely happy a person is in their relationship and how often they share photos or statuses about it on social media.
They outline a few reasons for this.
They start off by finding that people that use social media more frequently are generally unhappier than those off it.
It’s a bit of a chicken and the egg situation as to why, but basically, studies have found that heavy social media usage is linked to feelings of increased isolation and also, that people who are already unhappy tend to use it as a crutch to fill a void.
Secondly, people that are happy and genuinely content in their relationship don’t find the need to brag about it on social media.
They’d rather be mindful, focused and present in the moment instead of being preoccupied with nailing the perfect selfie in the perfect lighting for Insta.
Finally, the research found that people who are in an unhappy relationship feel the need to compensate for this by projecting a positive image onto social media.
Couples in a genuinely fulfilling relationship don’t feel this urge to share their entire lives on social media because they’re happy with it the way they are.
That’s not to say that there’s no middle ground either – it’s perfectly fine to celebrate your relationship online but if you feel an obsessive need to show-off externally then you might want to have a good hard at look at why.